Overcoming
Your Relationship Breakup: STOP, Don't
Go!
by Cucan Pemo
It’s
over. Your loved one is saying that
they’re going to leave.
They’re packing up their stuff and are ready to move to a new
place.
How do you stop the breakup from happening?
How do you get
things back to the way they were?
How do you get your
loved one to unpack their bags at home instead of somewhere else? There
are a lot of ways to deal with such a situation—a lot of
things you
should, and shouldn’t, do.
1)
The
“Shouldnt's”
Women tend to
beg when their loved one is on the
verge of leaving. I
can remember, in minute detail (unfortunately), the way I begged my ex
to not leave our apartment. I literally got down on my knees and
grabbed him to stop him from leaving.
Did you notice
I said “ex”?
The first time I did this, it did work
and he didn’t leave. We talked through our differences and
were able to
stay together for another couple of months. Then, once again, he
prepared to leave. I pulled my stunt and guess what? He left anyway.
Our
relationship was officially over. Your first
instinct as a woman
may be to beg and plead, but it just belittles you and generally
doesn’t work on your loved one.
Don’t
try to make your loved one
jealous. Some people go out and
make new “friends” in an effort to make their
significant other jealous
enough to not leave. Most of the time, this doesn’t work,
either.
Instead of making the spouse jealous, it may give them the final push
they need to leave for good. A slight bit of jealousy can give a
relationship a spark, but not if it’s already on a downswing.
2)
The “Shoulds”
The first thing
you should do is step back,
breathe, and give your
loved one some room. If they feel hemmed in, they’re not
going to want
to stay with you. Remember the old saying “You catch more
flies with
honey than vinegar?”
In giving them
what they want, you are respecting
their time and are
giving yourself time to cool down, as well. In the heat of the
argument, things are often said aren’t meant by either party.
Time
alone gives you the chance to breathe and to move onto the next step.
Step two
involves figuring out what’s
really going on in the
relationship. Why does your loved one want to break up? Have you been
fighting recently? Are all the fights about the same thing, or are they
about random things?
If all the
fights are about the same thing, then
you already know
what you have to work on. If they are about random things, there is
probably some underlying argument simmering below the surface that
hasn’t been discussed. Work on trying to figure out what that
is.
Approach your
loved one and calmly ask them what
their biggest
problem with the relationship is. Sometimes their answer will give you
the direction that you should move in next.
3)
Ch-ch-ch-changes
Everybody
changes; it’s a fact of life!
Who you are when you’re a
senior in high school is not who you’ll be when
you’re 30. Who you are
now may not be who you are in a few months.
This is often
why relationships start to fall
apart: you feel as
though you don’t know the person you’re with
anymore. Make some time to
get to know each other again! Spend time together doing simple things:
walking, talking, sitting in the park feeding the birds.
Do things
together that require that you are both
alone together.
You could go to a movie, but you really can’t talk well
there. The best
thing to do is to find something you can do that allows you to
communicate with each other.
Open yourself
up to your partner. Sometimes we
focus so much on what
we want that we neglect to think of how our partner is feeling. Often,
if you try to see things through their point of view, you will find
that you are much more empathetic to their feelings. You can see their
side of the argument, and if you can do that, then you can fix it.
Strong relationships are
fixable, and it’s always better to
try to
stop a breakup before it happens than to try to fix it after
it’s been
broken. After all, you can always fix a crack in a vase, but
it’s a lot
more difficult to find all of the pieces once it’s broken.
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